Perfectionism only leads to self sabotage

What does perfect really mean, as generally accepted by the world and perceived by each individual? Generally, the word is essentially whole, complete, flawless, beyond comparability. Individually, each one of us holds their own set of standards giving it a whole new understanding.

This dissemination between a general acceptance of the world and the personal understanding sets perfectionists apart from the rest, and most often, not in a positive way. The isolation creates social boundaries, driving higher stress levels behind the helplessness of not reaching the ideal, be it personal or professional. When we visualise the perfect outcome in dealing with a task, we put all our efforts and dedication into actually achieving it, forgetting that each individual’s evaluation is subjective. And that is when we hit ground, as disappointment kicks in, on the false assumption that we have failed to reach perfection.
Blinded by the apparent failure, we might conclude that the outcome is by no means perfect, therefor we must start over. It is like admitting that one whole workout session becomes nul, only because we’ve eaten one piece of chocolate right after it. Therefor, we must redo the entire thing again. That kind of thinking is what leads to self sabotage, impeding us from ever finishing our tasks and reaching our goals, as we get stuck in the perfectionism buble.

My point is that, not everything has to be perfect and not everything is worth the resources and efforts needed to achieve perfection. Every little step counts towards the end goal, be it perfect or not. We just need to analyze and understand whether that continuously perfected step will make a difference or not in the bigger picture.

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